Let me share a few things. Some of you will not like what I have to say and that is perfectly fine w/ me. But I've held a lot in over the years. We were threatened by our NGO if we did not submit at such a time, then the kids would not be available. Okay, first off, let me say I've done this before and I will tell you this, our kids' medicals looked so rotten, no one would want them! I don't say that to be mean. Shoot, they were passed over time and time and time again already. Older sibs, boy had epilepsy, both mentally challenged, etc., etc. (more on medicals later). Another missing part of her brain. From a place I'd never heard before...Pleven. Now, everyone knows about it. Summer was transferred from Pleven at 3yo and taken to Kardzhali. Anyhow, even the agency said Logan's was one of the worst medicals they'd ever seen. You can not imagine. Again, more later on that. Point I'm making, don't be rushed into anything. The kids are not going to be given to someone else or whisked away. I told my agency that if the kids are available, it's meant to be. However, some things are out of my control and nothing I could do about it. Bottom line. We also had an issue w/ our NGO (and NO, I am NOT giving names on here) on what not only us, but the agency, US State Dept., etc. deemed as corruption. Hey, I told you all it was a miracle we even got these kids home. The problem was solved before trip one. There was no one we could come up w/ thousands extra even after signing a contract of a set fee. BTW, our agency was extremely behind us AND worked well over time getting all this sorted. I can not speak higher of them. And this money issue is not only regarding us. I personally know of a few others w/ various agencies who also had issues. Our NGO also accused us of looking at other kids after we had already committed to our 3. Now, originally, we committed to a set of twins and Summer. That changed of course. However, after we committed to our kids, we didn't look at any other kids. Not sure where that statement came from. This is the kind of garbage that went on during the whole adoption process. Enough to make you want to throw in the towel for sure. But, we didn't obviously.
We pressed on. I won't go into everything. Trust me, it's a good made for tv type of movie stuff. LOL. This is about last year and getting them home to where they belonged. Like I said, first one to get home was Summer.
No matter what they are going to or how their lives are about to change, it is traumatic. They are leaving the ONLY home they've ever known. Period. You have to be calm, can't cry yourself as it will not help the situation, and keep pressing forward.
Forgive the jet lag look here as I'd been up for I think 2 days at that point. Summer is just not having any of this. Keep in mind, we haven't even gotten to the point of dressing her yet and we're on a time limit. Had to get back to Sofia to get ready to go to Shumen the next day.
Love that everyone went out with her to say goodbye.
Mom, I'm not having any of this I tell you. Stubborn then, stubborn now. LOL.
You want to make the hurt go away but you can't. You are in a rough position as a mother.
Feed her. Okay. Everyone eats chocolate, right? I tried everything from bananas to crackers to chocolate even. That shirt is a size 3T btw.
Yes, this was a child traumatized. And I could not help her at this moment in time. Crushing to both of us. It was not for a lack of trying.