Thursday, November 8, 2012

OMG! This time last year!

This time last year, we were on a plane.  Yes, we left last year on November 8th, 2011 to head to Sofia, Bulgaria to go and pick up our kids. 

 
Now, it's been a year.  None of you know everything that transpired to get us to that point.  Trust me, you don't want to know all of it.  LOL.  I told you all of the CPS fiasco.  What I have not shared till now is what someone did to us right after we got back from trip one.  Or , shortly thereafter.  We were waiting for our Article 5 letter.  However, ours got complicated.  Why?  Because someone decided they should report us to the Bulgarian Authorities at the Embassy to try to stop that letter!  Yep, you read that correctly.  It was said this family is 1) trying to run an orphanage in the US  2) is poor and 3) has ALL the children in the same room to sleep.  To say us & our agency were ticked off would be an understatement.  We tried to determine if it was the same person as the CPS people or what.  IT was maddening!  Our agency knows us very well.  In addition, ALL those things are proven in the homestudy.  And, our NGO met us while over there and said this is NOT this family.  We met them, they are normal, etc.  Saw pictures of our home and where the kids would sleep even.  So everyone knew.  Yet, it was a complaint that had to be dealt with and proven and more paperwork, etc.  Pain in the butt but our kids were waiting for us and we weren't going to let yet something else stand in our way.  We'd been through the wringer already.  We were the epitome of resilience at this point in time.  Why some people are downright evil is beyond me. 

Was worked out.  Had court.  Didn't find out till 5days later.  Then, told we needed to leave in 11 days!  That got changed as well.  Finally, November 8th was the day we left.  Ready for it all.  Or so we thought.  Over the next few days, I'll share more of what all happened.  I'll share before and after and how they've progressed after an entire year of being home.  Night and day.  I'll share about older kids homes.  I'll share quite a bit.  I won't hold back so be prepared.   I will tell all or at least most of it.  Can not believe we were on a plane last year.  Seems like forever ago.  So hang on, next few days is story time for sure.  Adjustments, what to expect, etc.  I had to be cautious as to what to say before.  Well, not any more.  I for one think folks should know the truth.  This you can't do this, you can't say this, etc. is just garbage.  Adopting families NEED to know what to expect as to not panic when it happens to them.  Just my two cents.  Be ready for some truth in adoption.  And many, many other topics.  That camping trip gave me the little break to get the gusto up to post a bit more.  So, more to come in a few more posts over the next couple of days.

2 comments:

  1. Looking forward to hearing what you have to say. By the time we bring Andrei home, he will be close to 8 years old. Where he is at, they pretty much give him whatever he wants so that will be an interesting adjustment for him to make realizing that he won't get everything with us.

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  2. Finally someone who tells it like it is...never have understood all the secretness. A couple at our church adopted and after a few yrs just couldn't take it anymore. They said if people had just told the straight truth to them they would have done it differently.
    Adoption is definately not for everyone.

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