I'll start w/ the second trip. The pick up trip. The one that is supposed to be a joyous occasion. I...think...NOT!!! It was horrifying. I am not going to sugar coat this one single bit. You need to know. I know I told a little of what was going on. But I like to be home a bit before I tell the whole story. So, here goes nothing. On the medicals, we were told he had epilepsy. fine. Told he was mentally challenged. Fine. Delayed. Fine. Told he was on anti-psychotics, begging in the streets, lying, stealing, etc. Wow! Really?? Once we met him though, we knew better. Yet, it's always in the back of your mind. It is. On the second trip, he was opposite of what we had met and we were wondering what to do. Do we go through with this? You do realize you can change your mind even that late in the game. And this may sound horrible to some of you. I think the new ones need though to hear the FULL story of where we were, why we kept moving forward, etc. I can almost guarantee you, another family would have disrupted him right then and there in Sofia. We did not. We couldn't. Despite all the horrible things he'd done, we were in this for the long haul. Shoot, we'd raised two RADishes already. We could handle this kid surely. Right? Well, day two into it, we were questioning ourselves big time.
Let me tell you a little of what Logan did. Kept hurting his sister by punching her, not listening, running away (literally down the street!), took a knife to his sister at a restaurant, lying, tried to steal hospital donations, kicked a cane out from an elderly gentleman, yelling at protesters, saying nasty things, trying to order vodka/ beer at restaurants, telling Summer to smack people on the butt in the police station no less, and the list could go on forever. You get the general idea I'm sure. A mess is an understatement.
Get home. I wanted the natural pecking order to take place. Kids asked if they should let Logan win. I specifically said no. Treat him like your other sibs...no mercy. LOL. See, Logan was a bully. That's just a fact. Thought he was better than everyone else. Better at soccer, better at arm wrestling, etc. Keep in mind, he is little for his age. Most older kids are when they come home from years in an orphanage. We took all technology away. He wanted to go to gambling sites. Ripe old age of 11yo. He was computer savvy. We knew that had to go right away. See here at our home, only the older teens have technology. Max has his own computer. Irina has the ipod touch. Yana will be making a purchase of one of those two items soon. Bojan has a tablet. Yana had one but it got burned. Melted. None of the others have technology except for some cameras and mp-3 players. We had to strip him down to basics. He need food, clothing, shelter. Period. No extras. No mementos. Nothing. He needed to learn and learn quickly, we were his family, we loved him, we would not send him away and essentially he was stuck with us. The quicker he could learn that, the quicker he'd be able to mesh w/ the family.