Anyhow, some things do come up from time to time. For those who have RAD, one issue many have is that of lack of empathy. I will not say which RADish of mine used to laugh when people got hurt or will I say the other list of things that was done. Just know, it wasn't good nor was it accepted behavior in this home. We treat them like everyone else. In fact, that's a saying here: "you're no different than anyone else." period. You are in charge and responsible for your own actions and behavior.
The other day, I caught Alex mocking Nik. Making "Nik sounds" b/c he's deaf. I said fine. You want to make fun of your brother, you BEST be able to live like Nik for a few hours. So, I made Alex put cotton in his ears. Had no ear plugs. Put sunglasses on him w/ a little press and seal in the middle. Nik has horrible vision and of course, is deaf. This is how I found Alex:
I think he got part of that lesson. I know it will take many more lessons. Alex does have a very sweet soul inside. I've seen the compassion for others come out. He'll help certain people in the house. Help someone up when hurt. ( he never used to do that). He does exhibit kindness. Just some roughness that we have to "polish" up a bit. I know there are other families living out there w/ RAD. I do not put everything on here as you can imagine. I limit what is said. However, I also think it is important for others to understand how conflicts and issues can arise w/ a child w/ RAD but how they can also be addressed. Maybe some will disagree w/ how I handled it. That's okay. What works for one family may not really work for another. But getting various ideas of what might work, may help someone in these trenches and that is worth a lot. Hope that made sense.
As for Alex after this...he's fine. No worse for wear for sticking cotton in his ears and wearing sunglasses that are distorted. I feel it got the point across. Why do I say that? Because he hasn't mocked his brother since.