Friday, March 18, 2011


I can't post long just b/c the task before me is HUGE!   I promise to have more details later today but I just could not contain my excitement.  The "littles" at first thought something was wrong as Ms. Stephanie was screaming w/ excitement.  LOL.  Then, once I explained it, they asked if they could go on the trip too.  I have to go.  I will definitely write more later.  We arrive in Bulgaria April 13th.  MUCH MORE TO FOLLOW!!!!  Just had to share b/c I'm sitting here w/ my head spinning.  My kids are going to be screaming at dinner this evening for sure.  Love it.  What a grand way to start the weekend.  Stay tuned for more details later this evening.  The smile has not left my face.  Seriously.  It feels great.  For me, this is when it starts to feel "real."  Got to go. 

Thursday, March 17, 2011

ER visit & much more

Okay, I'm not even sure where on earth to begin.  First, graphic picture further down so you're warned.  We obviously still can not disclose what's happening.  Let's just say I'm having to deal with someone who does not understand the complexities of IA(internationally adopted) kids.  It is very hard to educate.  I've tried and that is one reason for this blog as well.  To help others learn.  After 10 years in the adoption community, 7 adoptions, 3 more in process, you can honestly say you've learned a few things.  Both good and bad.  IA kids have a past. Most, from orphanages.  They did not have an easy life before they came to us and learned to live quite differently than what we would have raised them from infants.  Anyhow, been trying to explain over and over and over and over again.  Why my kids react the way they do to things.  All I can say fellow adoptive parents of IA kids, keep educating...please. 

So, that bit of stress is ongoing until it's over.  Life goes on though.  Today was St. Patty's day.  Wanted to do something neat for the kids but never got the chance.  So, they only ended up w/ cupcakes w/ green sprinkles.  Of course, last year we did green mashed potatoes and my kids said please don't do that again mom.  LOL.  Woke up and told everyone they should wear green. 

Told Alyona to wear green & this is what she came up with.  You can't see the front but it's a Christmas sweater w/ snowman and all kinds of sparkling stuff.  She was so cute and proud so I just let her go w/ it.  Tacky was an understatement.  Nik wore green.  Alex & Bojan did not.  Bojan was going to take a kitchen napkin w/ him  but I said no.  

So, day didn't start off too bad. Everyone made the bus, the "littles" came over.  Dirt was delivered so we can safely fill in some massive holes in the yard. 

This is one of the "littles" in 7th heaven.  He's all boy and you can tell.  Funny thing is, ALL my boys did this when they came home too!  Got to be a boy thing loving dirt.  I will get back to this dirt pile later in the post.  

Went through the day doing some painting, playground playing, story telling , and various other things w/ the littles.  Interrupted here and there.  Warren was home sick and stayed in bed.  Literally almost the whole day.  Anyhow, I was interrupted by phone calls here and there.  Two from the schools.  One was from the high school.  Gave her a piece of my mind of how I felt toward Irina's education.  She wanted to have an IEP to change her from resource(which she's NOT getting anyhow) to regular ed.  HOWEVER, she is not regular ed.  Also, didn't want to have an IEP meeting.  I said, yes, we are.  Long story short, IEP meeting scheduled for March 31st.  Much will be discussed. Much indeed.  Like the teachers, hate the system.

Kids came running home & fascinated by the dirt.  They were ready to help out and move the dirt to fill in holes.  No biggie, they've done this before, right?  Yes, they have used shovels, helped to fill in dirt or mulch.  Boys were outside.  2 of the "littles" parents were here.  We all heard the screams from outside.  Kids come running in saying Bojan's hurt bad.  Alex said his intestines are hanging out.   Umm, yes, my son needs to learn anatomy & just where those are located.  Anyhow, all of us go running outside.  All my kids and the "littles" are crowded around Bojan.  I look to see how rough it is.  knew right away we'd need stitches.  However, this injury was right on his old surgery would.  didn't see any bone so was praying it wasn't broken.  Mother of  2 of the "littles" took her kids home.  Told Irina to run across the street to have other parent of "littles" to come and get them as well.  Ran in to get stuff to take him to the hospital.  We knew our regular urgent care probably wasn't equipped to handle a would of this magnitude.  On the way, Bojan was appearing to go into shock.  Got there in time for him not to.  Parked & flew in the hospital.  Security guard said " I already got it."  He said when we see a parent come flying in like that, we know what's coming.  He helped me get Bojan in & I had Irina go w/ him.  Security guard told me park in the 15 minute spot.  They were really helpful.  We have an ER about 4 miles away from our house.  Signed him in.  He was white as a ghost.

Bojan in the waiting room.  Notice him looking a bit pale.  He was watching tv as a distraction.  BTW, camera was in my purse and happen to prove to be a great distraction for him later.  Trouble is, my kids to pictures of his battle scars.  I have a very graphic picture of the would that Irina took but I figured some on here would be way too squimish.  We're just going to leave it at a very meaty would.  

Since he was hit w/ a dirty shovel, IV antibiotics were called for.  He's smiling here and you can tell the color came back to him.  

Bojan after he'd been stitched up.  He had a wet towel on his head as he felt really nausiated.  They gave him something for that too.  He was quite the trooper for sure.  Even while the doc was injecting him w/ the numbing meds(& we all know how that stings), & doc was saying "I'm so sorry,"  Bojan said  "it's okay, you're only doing your job."  He was squeezing my hand the whole time.  Umm, quite the grip you've got son!  And, while there, I hadn't studied his face for a while.  There's actually peach fuzz growing!  He's only 12 years old!  How can this happen so soon.  I don't want another teenager quite yet.  Stay young a little while longer please.  

This doc did an amazing job.  She was very gentle and really knew her stuff. I explained about his past surgeries & my concerns w/ not having enough skin to suture up.  So, she did some mattress stitches & then regular stitches.  Worked very well!  They let us leave after he drank something.   And of course, we paid.  We got a 15% discount for paying right there.  So, ER visit was $85.  The cashier was very sweet & asking all kinds of questions.  She was saying all kinds of nice things about me which wasn't necessary at all.  These are my kids.  I could careless if they're adopted or if they have special needs.  To me, they're just my sons and daughters and I love them.  I know other adoptive families who get told these sorts of things as well.  It's sweet but I definitely am nobody special for adopting my kids.  We're just all family and that's how we like it.  

Anyhow, the camera proved to be a great distraction for Bojan while they were stitching him up.  Oh, we left around 4:30pm.  It was around 8 when we got home.  Warren came to the ER later to help me home.  I have severe nightblindness and not supposed to drive at night.  Thought w/ the time change I'd make it home in time but no.  All made it home & all the kids of course were up and ready to welcome Bojan home.  Had to explain to Nik, no he did not have another surgeries, but rather stitches.  Oh, this all came about b/c Bojan slipped on the dirt while standing on it at the same time as Max was going in for a load of dirt on his shovel.  the shovel got Bojan's leg instead of the dirt.   

Despite the accident, they're still best buddies.  They really are super close brothers.  whenever Bojan has surgeries, Max is his "lifter."  Bojan is obviously not going to school tomorrow.  I have to get him a wheelchair.  Leg has to be elevated for 2 weeks.  Wheelchair bound again.  Got to get a bus for school for him.  He goes back in 2 days for a re-check.  Then 2 weeks later for suture removal and check by his own orthopedist is what they recommend.  Umm, may be hard as I'm still waiting for Duke to call me back w/ an appointment date. 

Long day for sure but we're surviving.  I checked no homework tonight so that should be interesting.  Yana felt much better today which is wonderful news.  Still getting her to neurology next week.  I'm sure they'll schedule an MRI again.  I have piles and piles to do tomorrow.  I only have 2 "littles" tomorrow so errands will be easier.  Lots and lots to do.  I've started several posts just haven't got to finishing them.  Some times  you just have to go with the flow.  Our planned zoo trip for Saturday is obviously off.  So, told the kids we'd do a movie instead at the cheap seats.  Probably Harry Potter.  That is pending Warren feels better by then and no one else is sick or injured.  Got to go.  Bojan is uncomfortable but that is to be expected w /the injury he has.  They said he didn't need the hefty duty pain meds and to just use tylenol or motrin.  Hoping poor guy sleeps some this evening.  Say a little prayer for him or just send Bojan some good thoughts.  I need to get to bed at some point.  A few hours in the ER does kind of delay things a bit.  Glad he's alright and on the road to recovery.   More to come in the next few posts. 

Wednesday, March 16, 2011

Waiting child Wednesday

I know I haven't done a lot of advocating lately as we've had much to contend w/ on the homefront.  I know, still can't disclose anything but hoping next week things will becoming to a close and so will this whole situation.  It has literally taken up all our time and effort.  Thought I'd get back to some other things I used to love to do on here such as advocating for some kiddos from time to time.  So, here goes!


There is a 7yo little sweetheart waiting for her forever family.  She had a family but due to unforeseen circumstances at home, they had to release her.  "Jada" is a beautiful little girl who is legally blind.  She is located in Eastern Europe.  Her country does indeed accept singles!  It would be wonderful if the family interested had a homestudy, preferably a Hague one.  Whoever plans to adopt this precious little one must be willing to fly through paperwork.  Since she had been on hold for a year, they want a family to be able to move through the adoption process quickly so she can get home soon.  Her international fees have been reduced.  I have heard this little girl is very sweet.  Please help me spread the word so that she can be home soon to a loving family.  Thanks so much for all your help.  Feel free to repost. 

That is currently the only little one I want to focus on as it is urgent she get home soon.  7 is an awesome age to adopt.  We adopted Alyona at 7yo.  We adopted Irina at 6.5.  We adopted Bojan at 6.  So, I can vouch for it being a great age to bring home a little girl!  More to come tomorrow. 

Monday, March 14, 2011

The good pups

I know last puppy post was labeled trouble makers.  Had to show you the really good side of the pups too. 

She loves the papasan chair.  Even when it's not up.  She looks so sweet.

Our dogs are awesome for therapy!  They really are great.  As you can see, Kota puts up w/ a bunch.  

A few weeks ago, we had a situation here.  It threw everyone for a loop & I think even the dogs could feel it in the air.  I say that b/c Alaska came & jumped up in our bed that morning.  She'd never done that before & hasn't done it since.  I think she was trying to be comfort.  Her fur is coming back nicely from surgery.  We call her our little rag doll.  She'll go to whatever position you want her to.  Doesn't snap at any of the kids either.

This is "King" Kota.  We love him.  He's very sweet but definitely thinks he's the boss.  Loves to play.  Lives to eat.  LOL.  He is on his favorite chair.  The recliner.  Kota has also learned to jump the fence. URGHH!!!  Working on a solution to that major problem of our dogs escaping.  

They love sleeping here in the dining room.  I think it's to get away from the kids at times.  They don't chew too much in the house.  Thank goodness.  Only real problem we are having w/ them is their escaping the fence.  They look so innocent when they're laying down but we know better!  Had to share with you my good puppies too.  They really have helped our family and we love them to pieces.  

Manic Monday

Well, we survived Daylight Savings Time.  Never did make it to church on Sunday as we got up late.  never did get caught back up either.  Let's see, what craziness lies ahead this week.  Not too much really.  Well, there is something concerning and not sure what to do.  We are calling Raleigh Neurology.  It's not for one of our kids that normally see them.  It's for Yana this time.  She's been getting migraines for awhile now but seems to be able to control them w/ OTC.  Well, today she got one so bad that she had to call for me to come get her from school.  At the same time, the pups had run away & I had just put pizza in the oven.  Knew I had to get her though so I left.  She's been sleeping somewhat since I got her.  Yana said this one was like no other migraine she had. She's fine now.  Still, Warren & I feel we must get her checked out again. She's was checked years ago for the same thing w/ either a CAT scan or MRI.  Don't remember which but all came back clear.  They told us just someone who gets migraines and to treat the symptoms and we have been.  This attack though seemed different so we want her re-checked. 

Warren fixed Bojan's leg again so he's good for awhile.  It was turned in too much.  That & he did something w/ the knee.  No more falling.  Yeah.  All kids are healthy right now so nothing w/ medical stuff except the migraines for Yana.  Still waiting for a call back from Duke for Bojan.  Though they are a great hospital, their customer service has much to be desired. 

We have an FAS support group meeting tomorrow evening and hope we can make it.  Always a challenge on a Tuesday.  Alex has running club tomorrow.  We have a "visitor" coming on Wednesday due to our current situation which I'm still not at liberty to disclose.  Hopefully, it will finish up soon.  Other than that, a light week. Dirt being delivered on Wednesday as well.  Lots of dirt.  since I was determined to follow through this weekend, I now have a ton of helpers.  LOL.  Yesterday, we had had enough of the boys' rooms.  Enough.  Here is just a small dose of what I'm talking about:

I walked into Nik & Alex's room & this is what I saw.  Can you believe this?!

This is the other part of their room.  That is not writing on the wall but a chalkboard wall.  And, we haven't finished painting around the new windows.  But the rest is all theirs.  I was really appalled.  Then, I left their room and walked into this:

This is the hallway upstairs.  Yes, we're finishing the some point.  Why on earth would they do this?!  Looks like a bunch of raccoons came in and destroyed everything in their path.  Ridiculous.  First door on the right is Alex & Nik's room.  Next door is Max & Bojan's room.  Do you want to even dare to go in?  Why not.  We're telling all so here goes.

This is part of Bojan & Max's room.  Half a darth vader mask, fairy doll, tons of clothes, shoelaces from God only knows where, etc.  Hey, at least the coats are hung up on the hooks on the left.  That dresser normally isn't there.  Remember, we're in the midst of changing this over to a girls' room.  First, we must find the room.

This is still Bojan & Max's room that we'll be turning into the girls' new room.  Okay, a few things here.  The weight bench is NOT supposed to be upstairs.  The mirror on the wall they took from the hallway.  Why?  I don't really know.  Then there is the matter of Bojan's bed over there.  Let's take a closer look, shall we.

Seriously son?  Do we have sheets for all the beds?  YES!  Maybe it's b/c it's too far for the boys.  Right?  Wrong.  The upstairs linen closet is right outside their door and is packed full of twin sheets.  Boys & girls.  Yet, my 12yo doesn't want to bother making his bed in the morning.  Bojan told me it's too much work to put sheets on the bed.  He'd rather take the comforter & just throw it on the bed.  Why do my boys do this type of thing?  Any of your kids just too lazy to even put sheets on the bed?  

Anyhow, Warren & I had had enough of the rooms that look like a demilitarized zone.  No reason for it other than being lazy.  We have given them chance after chance.  Well, Saturday during the day, several times a day, we said if it is not picked up by the end of the night, whatever is left is going in garbage bags.  Sure enough, first thing Sunday morning we went up w/ garbage bags in hands and boys in disbelief that we'd do such a thing to them.  They were scrambling to save what they wanted.  We kicked them out of the rooms while we picked up.  Took all garbage bags to the living room floor & dumped them out.  why?  Because each & every boy claimed they were NOT theirs.  None of it!  So, went item by item.  I was originally going to ground each child a day for each thing that was theirs.  Umm, that would have been months of grounding.  didn't do that.  Instead, they have endless punishment chores the rest of the week.  Yes, today they came home and raked up leaves.  They have oh so much more to do.  I understand boys being messy.  I do. But this was a whole other level.  I couldn't let it go on.  We'll see if this works.  Can you tell I let them stray from the 7-7-7 rule?  I can.  they just can not handle it.   I swear all my FAS kiddos would do well as minimalists.  Now, Yana's room used to be this way too. It did.  HOwever, she got her act together and learned quickly.  There are times when it's a mess but not to the extent of the boys.  Like I said, I can handle the mess.  It's when it looks like a dumpster spilled out that i have a problem. 

Well, the mess really wasn't the intended post.  For the most part, the downstairs stays decent all the time.  The boys' rooms are what need the most work.  We'll get there.  Slowly but surely.  Not much else happening here.  Getting lots of things done bit by bit.  Just sent in registration for Camp Cheerio in May & RSVP for the Orenburg Reunion in June.  April is an air show, a complete room change for the girls, camping out, Special Olympics, and Easter.  I'm sure we have a few other things in April as well.  This coming weekend we may attempt the zoo.  We'll see how it goes as Warren has an outage weekend and has to work.  STarting Thursday, the weather here is going to be absolutely gorgeous!  can't wait.  Spring is here!  Wahoo!!!  Doing lots of planting this weekend of veggies and such.  Cleaning up the yard big time.  Girls will be helping too as they spent all last weekend w/ friends.  And I mean, all last weekend.  Lots happening but good things so very happy about it all.  More to come.  I will indeed show an AFTER picture of the rooms soon.  It's in the camera.  Doesn't take them long when they actually set their mind to it.  Need to get going.  Have a wonderful evening.