Tuesday, December 20, 2011

Need to share

Okay, this may be tough to admit and to share but I'll give it a try.  I will write another post about the financial fallout of adoption in a day or two.  For now, I thought I'd give you a few things on my mind.  Adoption is financially draining.  That's just a fact.  However, you always have faith that things will work out.  We borrowed on our credit card to complete our adoption.  Not something you want to do by any means.  Not a bit.  yet, you know the kids need to get home & you run out of options.  Long story short, we came home and medical costs hit us a bit harder originally than we anticipated.  So Christmas this year is tight.  We have to stretch like a piece of elastic to get the kids gifts.  And that's okay.  However, you still worry a bit as you want things to be special, especially since it is our first Christmas as a family and our first Christmas for our 3 newest kids.  Plus, we have Summer's birthday & Irina's birthday in December & Bojan & Warren's in the beginning of January.  Busy few weeks.  LOL.

We go to church.  I'll confess, not as often as we should.  Anyhow, we do give as much as we can.  Trying to stretch what we can give b/c we DO have food, we DO have a house, we DO have a job and we DO have family.  So many have much less than we do.  It is only right to give.  The other day, the pastor was talking about saying 'yes' to God.  This was in reference to many aspects. Whether adopting, taking someone in, helping w/ a friend in need, etc.  God will provide.  We've heard it time and time again.  Of course, half the time, you just nod and say okay.  Sure. 

Back to the story.  It's been hard financially w/ Christmas and trying to see how we'll provide for the kids.  We were caught up in something last month w/ not getting an adoption reimbursement from work but now that is going to happen.  However, medical stuff put us a bit more uncomfortable financially.  What I failed to mention is that Warren went to the dentist today. He's been in pain for well over a year but sacrificed going in order to help get the kids home.  This past weekend, another tooth broke off and there is an exposed nerve...aka...P-A-I-N.  He HAD to go.  Yet, we knew insurance would NOT pay.  Only a very small, small part.  We told the dentist to fix the most painful thing, not to go over $1800 and we'll get some more after the first of the year done.  Mind you, last estimate was $8,000 worth of work that needs to be done...not covered by insurance.  Today's bill was $1700 and some change.  They allowed us to pay $200, which put us even tighter.  You feel beat down at times.  But, at least they helped him. 

Now, didn't know it but my cousin's church here, put together a box of miscellaneous toys for the kids for Christmas!  She brought it over this morning.  Teens wrapped them up for me.  (my elves).  Yesterday, an envelope arrived from Alyona's soccer coach.  He sent some candy for all the kids!  Just out of the blue.  Another lady that lives across the country said I was welcomed to some boxes of various things she would send.  Just have me pay the postage.  It was AWESOME!  Thank you JO!  Kids will have a bit more because of these generous souls.  People that had no idea what was happening financially.  They just gave to give.  Out of their hearts, out of the blue.  It is just heart warming.  It is exactly what the pastor was talking about at church the other day.  A box of fruit showing up on our doorstep along w/ a bag of clothes.  It's just overwhelming at times. 

I can not thank the special people that have crossed our path this Christmas season.  It really does mean an awful lot to us.  Makes a difference in the lives of many.  I know many of these people do not think of their gestures as a big deal.  It's the little things you do for people that add up to the big things.  Many by your "little" action have made this holiday season for my kids a bit brighter.  And for that, I just wanted to say thank you.  Remember, if you give God your 'yes,' He will provide.  May seem hopeless at times, but it WILL happen.  I truly believe that. 

Just wanted to share.  Hope you don't mind me sharing.  It will get better, it always does.  You just have to have faith that things will work out.  As our pastor has said, it's very easy to believe when things are going your way & everything is wonderful.  Takes deep faith to believe when you're down on your luck, out of a job, house burned down, medically fragile, financially drained, etc.  Of course, that is when you need to have even more faith than ever that things will work out.  This was very true for us last year when the odds were stacked against us that we'd ever get our children home. 

I have more faith than ever that things will work out the way they're supposed to work out.  I have realized not to sweat the small stuff.  As veggie tale's song goes: "Are you worried?  Not a bit.  I know whatever's gonna happen, that God can handle it!"  So though there are still bills left to pay and things left to do to figure out some medical mysteries, we know it's going to be okay. 


  1. Thanks so much for sharing. This was a blessing to read and a little encouragement for me today.

  2. Made me cry!I feel so much more Blessed to be able to give to your children. It is what Christmas is about. Love You ~ Jo