Saturday, December 10, 2011

3 weeks home!

So, how's it going?  We get asked that a lot.  Thought I'd chime in a few thoughts.  After all, this is my 5th post tonight.  Told you I'd try to catch up.  It's been three weeks since we walked off that plane on the trip from he**.  I'm not going to sugar coat it.  I'm not.  It is what it is.  It was not pleasant.  Logan running away in the Munich Airport and locking all the stall doors in the bathroom is just something I'd care to forget.  Along w/ asking him how in the world he got gum.  If you really want to know, he picked it up off the airport floor.  Disgusting but true.  However, w/ out these experiences, we wouldn't be where we are today.  I am going to be completely honest in this post.

I never ever thought we'd be where we are today.  Never.  I thought based on behavior in Bulgaria that it would be a minimum of 6 to 8 weeks before our home returned to normal.  I did.  For now though, it has returned to normal.  We are all family.  All a unit working together.  Are there squabbles?  Of course.  I think it would be creepy if kids got along every single minute. I never did growing up w/ my sibs.  We fought.  We survived it.  We learned to move on.  Reni is learning I can't stand a tattle tale.  Sure fire way to know they're learning English.  Logan has learned if you do something you will get punished here.  My banisters are now all cleaned up.  So are the downstairs' doors.  Summer has learned what time out is.  Reni is learning if you raise your voice or raise your hand to reach for something, you are not going to get hit.  Just doesn't happen here.  Apparently, this concept is very new for her and she is getting accustomed to it.  Reni has learned hugs make you happy.  She smiles so big every time you give her one.  Reni has learned to find her voice.  She uses it too.  Reni has learned to ride a bike.  She has learned she is not a weak little girl and that she CAN do stuff for herself.  She has not peed the bed once since being home.  I think not having fear has something to do w/ it.  Just a theory though.  Summer has learned that baths are wonderful.  She can't get enough of them now.  Asks every single day a couple times a day if it is time for her bath.  Summer is learning that bed isn't so scary & everything will indeed be here in the morning when she wakes up.  Summer has learned how to get her brothers and sisters to do anything for her.  Logan has learned love means more than fighting.  Logan has learned what it feels like to be loved and not have to be in the defensive mode all the time.  He has learned how to ride a bike.  He has learned to completely conquer his fear of dogs.  He is learning English at a fast rate.  Logan has learned he will NOT be going back no matter what he does.  This in turn has completely turned his behavior around.  He is now for the most part, a normal 11yo boy just like his brother Alex. 

All have learned this is their family.  All have learned recently they will have a Christmas in this home.  With gifts.  Surrounded by family.  Nik and Alyona also seem to slide right into routine as well when we adopted them.  Reni and Logan and Summer have done chores since day one.  They are taken around the house and shown where everything is the first two days.  We don't expect them to remember it all but doesn't take long.  They are shown where their clothing is.  Now, Reni and Alyona share clothing as they are the same size.  They both have their own stuff yet tend to share it.  Only issue we have is when both of them want to wear the same shirt on the same day.  Bound to happen w/ girls.  Logan and Nik are the same size as well despite the age difference.  They also share but both tend to have different tastes so not really an issue.  Boys will wear anything really. 

Things really have fallen into place.  I can't explain it.  I can't.  The medical stuff is being worked out.  Getting results in here and here.  January 10th is the big day for results though.  All are up to date on vaccines.  All have gone numerous places with us. Only one meltdown at Target.  And that was more of an 'I didn't get my way' kind of thing.  In this short amount of time, they truly have blossomed.  Come so far so fast.  We'll see how tomorrow goes.  They'll be going to church service for the first time. 

Been a long few weeks but it has also flown by in the same token.  Everyone belongs.  They don't feel out of place.  Right now biggest issue is w/ the room arrangements for the boys.  This was starting to happen even before Logan came home.  Truly, Bojan and Max need a separate room from the younger ones.  We know this.  1 more has just taken them to that next level.  There is space in the room, that is NOT the issue.  This is more teens needing more personal space than they have if you know what I mean.  We're all working on a solution. 

Anyhow, just know we're still early in the adjustment period. We have what I call flare ups now and then where they hate America but we have way more I love you's.  And for now, that's a good place to be. 


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