Monday, September 5, 2011
Ahh, finding her smile again
As some of you are aware, Irina has had a very rough year this past year. She is 18yo, will be 19yo in December. She finally realized she is very different from her peers and that was a hard blow. Now, we've always been honest with Irina from the get go about her having FAS and just exactly what that means. We don't sugar coat it or hide it as society will not do that for her when she is an adult. That's why I think the idea that everyone gets a trophy or modifying work to the point any answer will do, is not acceptable. It hurts them in the long run. Trust me on this one. They sure don't modify the DMV test for them. Irina had a very rough year at high school last year. Let's just say people are not kind in high school. The word retarded gets thrown around quite a bit unfortunately. The peer "helpers" were not helping her a bit but making fun of her & getting frustrated with her for assignments. To say last year was devasting would be an understatement. It was horrible. Irina even gained weight due to the sheer stress of school environment. This year something has happened. Check it out:
Irina has her smile back! She's interacting w/ the family, anger is less, and she is going out with friends. She is involved with life again! This is HUGE! She is also learning that she must stand up for herself. Irina is attending a new school this year and is comforted w/ Max and Yana being there too. Irina is starting to come out of her shell and realize to embrace her differences versus letting them rule her life. yes, she still has a long way to go but I see changes this year. In addition,she is tackling her weight problem now head on. Very proud of all she is doing. She is joining clubs at school as well. She wants to be part of society for sure and part of life. We have always taught our children that not everyone is going to like you. That's just a fact. But you really only need your friends and family to excel in life and live it to the fullest. That is what she's doing now. Living life. Irina is getting back in the swing of things at school. She is joining clubs. She loves youth group at church. She is going places. She is out of her room more. She is talking about the future. I love it. She does have issues still. Those will not go away. FAS is life long. But, she is learning to live with what she has been given. As those with teens know, this is hard to do. For a child w/ FAS and mental challenges, it is beyond hard to do. Yet, Irina has shown us that it CAN be done. Irina will be living here long term. I have a post coming up on that one. I do firmly believe now though that she has a great future ahead of her and is going to live her life to the fullest. Just wanted to share b/c occasionally, I get asked how Irina is doing. Next time you see her, ask how she is. Though, I think you'll be able to tell simply b/c her smile is back.