Irina-- She knows I've been trying to get the house organized and ready for school. She did all the laundry w/out me even asking just to help out. Thought that was thoughtful of her.
Take time out to notice, even if it is something small, what thoughtful things your children are doing. Yes, even with RAD, FAS, PTSD, ODD, ADHD, and everything else, they WILL do something thoughtful each and every week. You just have to notice it. Your kids really will appreciate the recognition.