Thursday, March 17, 2011

ER visit & much more

Okay, I'm not even sure where on earth to begin.  First, graphic picture further down so you're warned.  We obviously still can not disclose what's happening.  Let's just say I'm having to deal with someone who does not understand the complexities of IA(internationally adopted) kids.  It is very hard to educate.  I've tried and that is one reason for this blog as well.  To help others learn.  After 10 years in the adoption community, 7 adoptions, 3 more in process, you can honestly say you've learned a few things.  Both good and bad.  IA kids have a past. Most, from orphanages.  They did not have an easy life before they came to us and learned to live quite differently than what we would have raised them from infants.  Anyhow, been trying to explain over and over and over and over again.  Why my kids react the way they do to things.  All I can say fellow adoptive parents of IA kids, keep educating...please. 

So, that bit of stress is ongoing until it's over.  Life goes on though.  Today was St. Patty's day.  Wanted to do something neat for the kids but never got the chance.  So, they only ended up w/ cupcakes w/ green sprinkles.  Of course, last year we did green mashed potatoes and my kids said please don't do that again mom.  LOL.  Woke up and told everyone they should wear green. 

Told Alyona to wear green & this is what she came up with.  You can't see the front but it's a Christmas sweater w/ snowman and all kinds of sparkling stuff.  She was so cute and proud so I just let her go w/ it.  Tacky was an understatement.  Nik wore green.  Alex & Bojan did not.  Bojan was going to take a kitchen napkin w/ him  but I said no.  

So, day didn't start off too bad. Everyone made the bus, the "littles" came over.  Dirt was delivered so we can safely fill in some massive holes in the yard. 

This is one of the "littles" in 7th heaven.  He's all boy and you can tell.  Funny thing is, ALL my boys did this when they came home too!  Got to be a boy thing loving dirt.  I will get back to this dirt pile later in the post.  

Went through the day doing some painting, playground playing, story telling , and various other things w/ the littles.  Interrupted here and there.  Warren was home sick and stayed in bed.  Literally almost the whole day.  Anyhow, I was interrupted by phone calls here and there.  Two from the schools.  One was from the high school.  Gave her a piece of my mind of how I felt toward Irina's education.  She wanted to have an IEP to change her from resource(which she's NOT getting anyhow) to regular ed.  HOWEVER, she is not regular ed.  Also, didn't want to have an IEP meeting.  I said, yes, we are.  Long story short, IEP meeting scheduled for March 31st.  Much will be discussed. Much indeed.  Like the teachers, hate the system.

Kids came running home & fascinated by the dirt.  They were ready to help out and move the dirt to fill in holes.  No biggie, they've done this before, right?  Yes, they have used shovels, helped to fill in dirt or mulch.  Boys were outside.  2 of the "littles" parents were here.  We all heard the screams from outside.  Kids come running in saying Bojan's hurt bad.  Alex said his intestines are hanging out.   Umm, yes, my son needs to learn anatomy & just where those are located.  Anyhow, all of us go running outside.  All my kids and the "littles" are crowded around Bojan.  I look to see how rough it is.  knew right away we'd need stitches.  However, this injury was right on his old surgery would.  didn't see any bone so was praying it wasn't broken.  Mother of  2 of the "littles" took her kids home.  Told Irina to run across the street to have other parent of "littles" to come and get them as well.  Ran in to get stuff to take him to the hospital.  We knew our regular urgent care probably wasn't equipped to handle a would of this magnitude.  On the way, Bojan was appearing to go into shock.  Got there in time for him not to.  Parked & flew in the hospital.  Security guard said " I already got it."  He said when we see a parent come flying in like that, we know what's coming.  He helped me get Bojan in & I had Irina go w/ him.  Security guard told me park in the 15 minute spot.  They were really helpful.  We have an ER about 4 miles away from our house.  Signed him in.  He was white as a ghost.

Bojan in the waiting room.  Notice him looking a bit pale.  He was watching tv as a distraction.  BTW, camera was in my purse and happen to prove to be a great distraction for him later.  Trouble is, my kids to pictures of his battle scars.  I have a very graphic picture of the would that Irina took but I figured some on here would be way too squimish.  We're just going to leave it at a very meaty would.  

Since he was hit w/ a dirty shovel, IV antibiotics were called for.  He's smiling here and you can tell the color came back to him.  

Bojan after he'd been stitched up.  He had a wet towel on his head as he felt really nausiated.  They gave him something for that too.  He was quite the trooper for sure.  Even while the doc was injecting him w/ the numbing meds(& we all know how that stings), & doc was saying "I'm so sorry,"  Bojan said  "it's okay, you're only doing your job."  He was squeezing my hand the whole time.  Umm, quite the grip you've got son!  And, while there, I hadn't studied his face for a while.  There's actually peach fuzz growing!  He's only 12 years old!  How can this happen so soon.  I don't want another teenager quite yet.  Stay young a little while longer please.  

This doc did an amazing job.  She was very gentle and really knew her stuff. I explained about his past surgeries & my concerns w/ not having enough skin to suture up.  So, she did some mattress stitches & then regular stitches.  Worked very well!  They let us leave after he drank something.   And of course, we paid.  We got a 15% discount for paying right there.  So, ER visit was $85.  The cashier was very sweet & asking all kinds of questions.  She was saying all kinds of nice things about me which wasn't necessary at all.  These are my kids.  I could careless if they're adopted or if they have special needs.  To me, they're just my sons and daughters and I love them.  I know other adoptive families who get told these sorts of things as well.  It's sweet but I definitely am nobody special for adopting my kids.  We're just all family and that's how we like it.  

Anyhow, the camera proved to be a great distraction for Bojan while they were stitching him up.  Oh, we left around 4:30pm.  It was around 8 when we got home.  Warren came to the ER later to help me home.  I have severe nightblindness and not supposed to drive at night.  Thought w/ the time change I'd make it home in time but no.  All made it home & all the kids of course were up and ready to welcome Bojan home.  Had to explain to Nik, no he did not have another surgeries, but rather stitches.  Oh, this all came about b/c Bojan slipped on the dirt while standing on it at the same time as Max was going in for a load of dirt on his shovel.  the shovel got Bojan's leg instead of the dirt.   

Despite the accident, they're still best buddies.  They really are super close brothers.  whenever Bojan has surgeries, Max is his "lifter."  Bojan is obviously not going to school tomorrow.  I have to get him a wheelchair.  Leg has to be elevated for 2 weeks.  Wheelchair bound again.  Got to get a bus for school for him.  He goes back in 2 days for a re-check.  Then 2 weeks later for suture removal and check by his own orthopedist is what they recommend.  Umm, may be hard as I'm still waiting for Duke to call me back w/ an appointment date. 

Long day for sure but we're surviving.  I checked no homework tonight so that should be interesting.  Yana felt much better today which is wonderful news.  Still getting her to neurology next week.  I'm sure they'll schedule an MRI again.  I have piles and piles to do tomorrow.  I only have 2 "littles" tomorrow so errands will be easier.  Lots and lots to do.  I've started several posts just haven't got to finishing them.  Some times  you just have to go with the flow.  Our planned zoo trip for Saturday is obviously off.  So, told the kids we'd do a movie instead at the cheap seats.  Probably Harry Potter.  That is pending Warren feels better by then and no one else is sick or injured.  Got to go.  Bojan is uncomfortable but that is to be expected w /the injury he has.  They said he didn't need the hefty duty pain meds and to just use tylenol or motrin.  Hoping poor guy sleeps some this evening.  Say a little prayer for him or just send Bojan some good thoughts.  I need to get to bed at some point.  A few hours in the ER does kind of delay things a bit.  Glad he's alright and on the road to recovery.   More to come in the next few posts. 

1 comment:

  1. So sorry this happened :( I'm glad he is OK now! Blessings, Jennifer