You keep busy during the wait, especially if you already have a family. I mean life does keep moving. Nothing slows down just b/c you're waiting on your child. However, I think it is a bit different for an adoptive mom. Bio moms typically will get a baby shower waiting on their new arrival. Something that gives you a feeling of "it's real" & this child is indeed coming soon. For adoptive parents, at least most of us I assume, don't have that shower or bit of celebration. For me, that's okay. With my first two kids coming home, we did have a shower at my work which was absolutely wonderful! I was able to get clothing for the kids, toys, etc. things that I didn't have. Even though you are adopting kids, most of the time, you are still going to need things when they arrive home. anyhow, getting sidetracked here. What I originally meant to say is you have other people recognizing that wait when you are pregnant. Not many will recognize the agony of the wait you have to endure during an adoption process. Mostly I think b/c of the unknowns. Others, let alone yourself, have NO unearthly idea when your child will arrive home. During a pregnancy, you really do have a pretty good window of when you are going to have your child.
Maybe that is what is bugging me more than the wait lately...the unknowns. Not knowing for certain when I'm going, not knowing for certain when they're coming home. It gets to you. It does. I mean I know these are adoptions #8,#9, & #10 for us. That does NOT make it any less significant. These last 3 kids are just as important in my mind as my first two kids were. Feelings of worry, anxiousness, happiness, sadness, all there. Just like it was for the first two home. The not knowing exactly when Max & Irina were coming home was awful. I got a call at work one day to be on a plane in 3 days & in Russia! Crazy. Only to have to wait more. Our first adoption, our court date was rescheduled 5 times. It became a running joke at the office as I'd say goodbye & be back the next day.
Sorry if this was so choppy. I've had to start & stop a lot of things lately. Trying to get caught up & back on track. Today, we went to take Nik to the dentist. They told us we were a month early... one month early. Our appointment is March 23rd, not February 23rd. Wasted gas. And gas nowadays is more like gold. LOL. Don't want to waste it. Irina went to the doctor. Blood results should be tomorrow I hope. Max's teacher called & he's actually ahead in assignments & doing great! Now, we have a meeting w/ his math teacher tomorrow. Somehow, I'm thinking that is not going to be as great as the other teacher's news. But, we'll figure it out. None of my FAS kids are really good at math. They try & we try but there is that disconnect. Just doesn't happen for them. I have a feeling that is what is going on in Algebra for him. We'll find out tomorrow. Yana has been very disappointing lately. Just a few minutes ago, I laid it all out for her. Straight shooter. We found that is what needs to be done with our FASers. I came down hard on her. Going to discuss the situation more this evening. Will fill you in later as I think it's important for others to know the good & the bad of family life when you have kids w/ various special needs. Again, more on it later as this has become wordy. Warren is out this evening w/ a few friends. Glad he can get out. They chat tech stuff. I'm out of that world for sure so happy he has friends that can talk about something other than kid stuff. LOL. Occasionally, I'll slip out for lunch w/ a friend or something like that. Been awhile but it's great when we do go. Got to go. Made turkey, stuffing, & mashed potatoes this evening. Waiting for the potatoes to finish boiling.