Thursday, April 15, 2010

Happenings and updates

Adoption news.  Oh, so,so much to say.  Guess I will start w/ happy news.  Our social worker has been assigned and is a dream come true...the same one we've had!!!  If you might remember, she was on maternity leave.  She is back and so are we.  Can hardly wait to hear from her soon.  Spoke w/ the director today about a few things.  Did realize that we need life insurance on me.  Have it with Warren but I need some too.  We've looked into it before but had totally forgotten about it for awhile.  Nice reminder and something we'll be checking into tomorrow.  We love our agencies...both of them.  I will give names a little further into the process but just don't want to at this point in time.  If anyone needs a recommendation though either locally in the triangle area of NC for a homestudy or a placement agency in any state, let me know.  I have probably the two best!  Going to stop by the local sheriff's dept. tomorrow for an SBI criminal check.  Alright, I already did the FBI checks.  Got to love it.  YOu have to have criminal clearance at every single level.  I do understand it though.  It is needed.  We'll do this tomorrow and also pick up some copies of our marriage certificates.  We're going near the courthouse anyhow to go to Special Olympics.  Might as well kill two birds w/ one stone.  Progress.  Every piece of paper obtained for an adoption is progress.  It seriously is.  So, though it is tedious and boring, it is exciting at the same time. 

Alex and stitches.  His stitches are looking great.  Though I can take them out myself, doc wants to see him back in 10 days to check the wound.  Fine w/ me and have it on the calender.  Hasn't been that long yet but is looking good.  WE've not given him the script either.  For us, sometimes a judgement call what meds that they should have or not.  Glad Alex is back in ship shape.  So, all our boys have had stitches now.  2 of the girls have.  So, Yana is the only one.  Trust me, I don't mind a bit to not have all 7 in the "stitches club." 

Special Olympics.  Well, tomorrow is Special Olympics for Alyona.  I will have many pictures of her.   She should shine like the sun!  Speaking of which, it is supposed to be near 90F tomorrow.  Yikes.  Hot.  But sunny so I can't complain.  We will do what we always do w/ her.  WE go, enjoy ourselves and then take her out to eat afterwards.  There are many restaurants over htere and we'll let her pick.  (please, no Mickey D's.  LOL)We'll see.  We'll also run errands afterwards for the adoption so she'll be thrilled to show off her medals.  CAn't wait. 

IEP Meeting.  Had a meeting for Max this week.  He's starting to fail.  Went from A's & B's to D's & F's.  What we had done earlier this semester is switch him to a resource and regular setting versus the self-contained.  It is clear to us that he can not function in a regular setting any more.  We were hopeful but sometimes you just have to accept where hte child functions best. For Max, it is self-contained to be successful.  They would not change his placement however b/c he is indeed smart.  URGHH.  We know he's smart.  That's not the problem.  The problem is what type of environment he can learn in.  We worked out a plan for measuring progress in 2 weeks and then meet again. 

Had 13 kids here this afternoon as I was helping out a neighbor.  So, guess I'm getting practice.  LOL.  Sugar free popsicles go a long way.  Anyhow, I've been very, very busy and haven't had the chance to post much.  I have 2 urgent situations to find 2 kids a home for.  More on those 2 tomorrow.  Also pictures tomorrow.   Been taking a breather too from the negativity post I wrote a few days ago.  Apparently, some family does read this blog.  I was sent a comment but did not post it b/c it has names.  I did not give any relation or name on that post for a reason.  I have much more to say about all this.  I really do. Now though, is not the time.  I will clear a few things up for sure.  Speaking from deep raw feelings sometimes is not the best decision.  Again, more on that later.  Right now, need some sleep and ready for Alyona's day tomorrow.  Nik has a party tomorrow night.  Alyona is having a friend over.  Warren is working this weekend so plans have changed and we are here Saturday.  Kids and I may go strawberry picking on Saturday.  I know I'll go yardsaling a bit too.  Lots more to tell.  Hope your weekend is just as fun. 

Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Chores around the house

Every household has chores to do.  Ours is no exception.  Everyone is expected to do chores everyday.  Then sometimes though, we have spring cleaning and a fall cleaning.  That's what we did some of last weekend.  I figured I'd share some pictures to let you see some of the chores that we do.  So, here goes. 

Well, after a few weeks of pollen coating the cars in yellow-green dust, we decided it was high time to wash them.  You know you have a big family when you have to have a ladder to wash the car.  I was washing the top but couldn't get the middle.  Max said he could so I let him.  Alyona and Nik wanted to help as well.  Now, originally I did not let Nik help.  This is what he did:

I told Nik he could not help wash the car.  So, he went off and pouted.  Caught him peeking out from the back of the house.  I finally caved and let him help.  He's help is more of a hinderance than a help.  LOL.  But, got to let him try sometimes.  There are some chores all of us do and some that just one or two of the kids do.  Here is another chore that gets done in the spring and fall:

Cleaning the grill so it doesn't end up like the other one.  Max took everything apart and cleaned it all out.  Dirty job and glad I don't have to do it.  Way to go Max.  Thanks for the help.  

Scrubbing down all the indoor trashcans.  I could not believe Irina actually took this job upon herself to do.  And, as they were drying in the sun, Irina took a break:

Yep, talking on the phone.  Irina is definitely our social butterfly and loves to talk.  To anyone.  This is why we know a cell phone would not work for her.  Minute usage would be more than the hours in the day.  LOL.  But, she does love to talk and thankfully can go anywhere in the yard w/ the cordless phone.  

Yeh, you're right.  We did not even attempt this as a spring cleaning chore.  Well, this is what will be Alyona and her new sisters' room.  Yes, believe it or not.  There is someone that is coming to build a shed.  A good chunk of this will be put in the shed or gotten rid of.  Then, the real work begins on making this room into a real room for 3 princesses.  Alyona has already declared that she wants it pink.  Should be cleared out over the next month or so.  Wahoo!!!
Well, after a hard day's work of cleaning, it was time for a nice dinner.  

Warren decided to cook shrimp and veggies on the grill.  We all love this dish.  We have some great seasonings and we love fresh veggies.  Throw it on top of some rice and you have a very filling meal.  It was a great way to end a long day of hard work.  Everyone chipped in though and it made it go faster.  Now, to tackle some indoor spring cleaning next weekend possibly.  

The weather here has been fantastic lately.  We have been outside all the time practically.  Friends come over & hang out w/ us.  The kids' friends have come over to hang out as well.  Lots of soccer, badmitton, trampoline jumping, frisbee and other things going on everyday in the yard.  GReat to see for sure.  Can hardly wait for summer time but enjoying this weather so much, don't want to hurry summer along quite yet.  Enjoy your day.  On my way to an IEP meeting today.  Wish me luck.  We're pulling 2 to 3 kids out of school in the fall to homeschool them.  Tell more in upcoming posts. 

Monday, April 12, 2010

A Video Must See

I have watched this video for awhile and pull it out every time I need help realizing what is important and how to get there.  What the brick walls are for in life.  This man is named Randy Pausch.  He was huge here in America  just before he died of pancreatic cancer.  He gave one of the most uplifting lectures I've ever heard.  Makes you really think and believe in things and in yourself.  What your goals are and why you want to achieve them.  I do hope some of you take something away from this video as much as I have.  It is over 11 minutes but worth every single second of it.  I'm usually not one to sit and watch these things but this was well worth the viewing.  Here it is:

Tell me what you think.  I'd love to hear what your thoughts are as well. 

Stitches, sabotage and spring cleaning!

Well, after such a lengthy and negative post last time, thought I'd try something else this go around.  The first item is stitches.  Yes, one of the boys.  Okay, as some of you are aware, Alex is indeed grounded for awhile.  So, thought we'd have him take a bag and just pick up little pieces of trash along our property.  Some people throw stuff out.  He was picking stuff up and headed back to the house.  Swinging the bag full of glass alongside him.  Yep, sliced his leg up.  I took him this time(warren & I take turns sitting if one is hurt or has to go to urgent care).  2 and a half hours later and 6 stitches later, he was fine.  No worse for wear.  Don't have pics of any of his battle scars, thank goodness.  Now, how is that for a week...grounded, poison ivy and then stitches. 

Next item in the heading is sabotage.  Read the post before this regarding adoption negativity and you'll understand.  Just didn't expect it.  I disobeyed my own 3 rules I tell every parent when adopting:

1.  Be flexible.
2.  you are NEVER in control.
3.  ALWAYS expect the UNEXPECTED.

Sure enough, I did not listen to #3 and had my heart & feelings hurt a bit this past weekend.  I'm over it and writing about it helped immensely.  We'll get there.  So, anyone want to become a long distant relative all of a sudden?--LOL.  I'm just kidding folks, really just kidding.  My adoptions have never been smooth in retrospect so why should this one be any different.  Just have to follow my own rules and I'll get there to completing our family.  The support of family would have been wonderful to have this go around but I guess it is not meant to be.  And that's okay.  To each their own.  Adoption is just the way we complete our family.  It is not a mission for us, not an act of philanthropy, nor an act of kindness.  It really is just the way our family was formed and something we forever treasure be given the opportunity to do. 

Okay, spring time has really been all over the place at this house.  We lOVE color.  Our flowers are starting to bloom and it is just gorgeous all over.   You seriously could not ask for better days.  Just puts everyone in a great mood.  Well, unless you're getting stitches of course.  Here's a look at some flowers starting around the yard:

These are the white and pink azaleas we have in our yard.  Can't wait for a few more years and they'll have some size to them.  Very beautiful and vibrant though.  I try to get most my plants at the end of season clearance.  you know, when they look about half dead.  They can be revived and look at the outcome!

Noticed these the other day.  Remember, our home is surrounded by woods.  There's a variety of plants all around us.  New ones pop up.  This is a flowering vine of some sort that appeared.  We have honeysuckles also that line our wire fencing.  So much so that you can't even see the fence anymore.  smells wonderful this time of year and we all enjoy honeysuckles of course!  they're not quite blooming yet but honeysuckles will be out shortly.

This is another variety of tree we have.  They have the most beautiful blooms this time of year.  Look like giant lily pads.  So gorgeous.  I thought they'd have to smell just as pretty...wrong!   They stink.  My kids brought me one last year from the woods.  Where they're located it was a trick for them to get it.  We put it in the dining room and quikcly took it right back outside.  LOL.  Such a pretty flower w/such a rotten smell.  They are so pretty now though on the trees.  Love it.  

This is a small glimpse of some of our yardwork.  All the landscaping rocks are free.  Wahoo!  We have a variety of plants.  This is only half of what we call "the island."  It has many azaleas(sorry they're not that clear on here), a mimosa tree, iris' on the end, forsynthia shurb and of course the large oak trees.  Other side is filled w/ more azaleas, hydrangeas, and hostas.  We have a hamock in the middle & all of us love to lay in it and look up in the trees.  Feels like you are floating in the sky.

Just wanted to give some upbeat color to this blog after the negativity post.  We are moving forward and upward w/ this adoption journey.  We all know you hit roadblocks along the way.  You just find a different route to go.  Life hands you lemons, you make lemonade.  Fortunately, we are folks that love to drink lemonade.  I do have the older child adoption post coming soon.  Just had to relax a little after this weekend.  Thanks again for the tremendous support and encouragement.  It is times like these that you realize just how important that is.