You know how some things kids just need to experience themselves? That was the other night. And b/c of her maturity level, I had to watch what I said. So, I made it about BOTH of us needing to loose weight together and that I would help put a plan together. She knows I used to help train athletes and put plans together all the time. I said we are to focus on the future and not what you did or didn't do the last few months. She agreed. Next morning we woke up(late of course) and went straight for a walk around the neighborhood. She then went swimming w/ her friend & went walking later too. Irina was asking me what she should eat, etc. She is serious and committed. I think she had to see for herself that she was gaining weight from lack of activity level. What she also does not understand is in the preteen years you eat a ton as your body is growing but that stabilizes in the late teens. Eating needs to decrease to accomadate. I'm trying to teach her but also have to word how I put things. If she does do all this though & gains anything or doesn't loose in 2 weeks, then she'll go straight back to neurology for a med change. I have NOT told her the meds may be a contributing factor or she'd quit cold turkey which could literally be deadly for her. But, it has been two days and she's still on this exercise kick(not obsessed though) and much, much happier. I see a change already & I know this will be a good start. Thought it important to share b/c we deal w/ all sorts of normal teen issues here too. Yet, we have to find a balance in how to deal with them since our kids chronological age does not match their mental ages. Right now, she is swimming w/ her friend.
So, I have one daughter training to be on track and running everyday and one daughter starting an exercise program to get healthy again. Now, I need to make sure I keep up w/ them! My other teen son Max wants a weight set. I used to be very, very into exercise & health. I think my teens are going to
Irina's anxiety can sometimes get the best of her. It is hard to deal with for sure. She tends to worry sometimes about the things she can't control. Showing her though the things she CAN control, is a big help for her. I want to be able to give Irina the tools she needs to deal w/ bigger issues that may come up later on in life when she may live on her own. We want her to reach her fullest potential and teaching her how to calmly deal w/ her fears and anxiety will prove beneficial later on in life. I hope. Can't hurt.
So, even though we calmed her down and she finally went to bed around 11, I still had to work out. Had to keep my word. yep, an 11 o'clock workout that evening, little sleep and then an early walk the next day w/ her. Sometimes being a parent is tiring. LOL. I know I still have some pictures to post at some point in time. And the other FAS posts.