Onto Max's transformation. Gosh, where do I begin. I will not tell their adoption stories on here as they are extremely lengthy. But what took place over the years. Max came home at just four years old. He weighed 21 lbs. and wore size 18 months. He was developmentally delayed. He was a
We took him to a neurologist. Confirmation was ADHD and FAS. Read all I could and again,they don't paint pretty pictures for children with FAS and there are many misconceptions of children with that disorder. Did you know that 85% of the kids w/ this actually have normal to high intelligence? Max is one of those kids. He is extremely bright. Over the years we dealt with Max's ups and downs and went through many med changes till we found something that works. Though I hate medicating my children, sometimes it is absolutely necessary. If he were not medicated, there is no doubt he would be in jail. I know that sounds horrible but it is the truth. With medication, he is able to make clear decisions and choices and rage is completely controlled. We only medicate our children that truly need it. All our kids have various dx's, but only 3 are medicated for them. If we can modify their behavior w/out meds, we give it a shot. If they are a safety risk to themselves or others in the house, we do give medication. They are extremely monitored with these. They see a neurologist every 3 months and have bloodwork drawn every 6 months. I know medicating a child is a hot topic. It was for me and I didn't want to do it. But when Max took the medicine, he was different. wE never told him in the beginning it was medicine. Just said it was vitamins as we wanted to make sure there was no placebo effect. He came to us after about two weeks on it and said "can I keep taking these vitamins?" I said why? He said "because my brain can finally think." He used to literally put a toothbrush to his mouth and forget he was brushing his teeth. There was so much scrambled thought, he couldn't function in everyday life. Once this issue was taken care of, we got to see the true Max.
Let me share with you some of the true Max. My son has gone from a wild, head banging, out of controlled, agressive child to something only one could dream of. Max is brillantly artistically inclined. This child has a natural gift for art. I will indeed post some pictures later this evening. He has won some art contests at school and one for the entire state when he was only in 2nd grade. He is currently painting a mural for my friend on her son's wall. He will be doing that here in the next few months to expect his talents and broaden his knowledge. Max is extremely mechancially inclined. If something is broken in this house, we ask Max to fix it. He is the go-to guy here. He can tell you how engiines work and reads about mechanical stuff and technology stuff all the time. Max is a very sweet child as well in regards to his siblings. He and Bojan are best buddies. Our biggest issue w/ this is they want to stay up all night talking. Max sees a problem and tries to fix it. Max is now 14 years old and will be 15 in a few short months. He likes the girls as all teens do at this age but is way too shy to ask any of them out yet. He seems to think that girls don't like "brown" boys. That's what he calls himself...brown. Don't really get it. He is from Russia but clearly Asian. both his parents were from Kazakstahn. We are trying to boost his self-esteem a bit in that department. Any girl would be lucky to have him. Our biggest issue with Maxwell is cleaning his room. But, if that is the ONLY issue we have with a 14yo boy, we must be doing something pretty dog gone good. I love seeing the quiet, sweet, compassionate, art-loving, mechanical thinking young man he has become. We are very proud of him. So, those contemplating an FAS child, take a look at Max. Yes, he'll need help with some things as an adult but I have no doubt he'll be able to make it in the real world and have a great life. I wish I had pictures from 1999 when we brought him home but I don't. He was a tiny little thing. So, earliest I have is 2004, 5 years after were were home with him. Here goes: