Now as for disabilities, I may just have to list those one day. We have some of the scarier adoption dx's that many fear in the adoption realm. For some of our children, we were blatantly told by "professionals" they would become sociopaths and to disrupt the adoption immediately. Not a chance. Some things take time. When you have emotional disabilities, it can take years to get the children on track. Just the way it isand we go with the flow. Some of our childrens' disabilities are life long. Bojan will never grow his leg back. Nik will never truely hear again. Alyona will not gain sight in her one eye nor clear vision in the other. It just doesn't happen that way. And that's okay. Some have told us time & time again "your hands are full." My response: "better full than empty." That's all I say. I do have to dosome things that some parents out there don't have to. IEP meeting this morning I had for Irina. I stood my ground. Told them what I thought of their school & the truth of what is happening. I think my forwardness comes from the fact that I will not sit back & do nothing. Some see special ed or special needs children as not being able to do anything. They don't look past the disability. URGHH. Drives me insane as many, many of these children have so much potential. I will do what I can as a special needs' parent to educate those who do not understand. When we're in public, I hope we appear as normal as can be w/ a family of 9--LOL. Some have this image that we sit at home w/our special needs children and don't go places or can't do anythign. Ahh, no. Here's some pics from a recent visit to a light show:
This is actually a photo that should have gone in the last posts w/ firsts but can fit in here b/c even special needs kids have "normal" things happen. Here, Nik lost another tooth(his 2nd one). he was so thrilled. The mouse comes in this house to bring the tooth. I have no idea but apparently our kids were told this in Russia. So, even in winter, our kids leave the window open for the mouse to come in--LOL. Okay, so that is totally not normal. Oh well.
So, I showed a few ways our family is normal despite having special needs children. Some think we can't handle 3 more special needs children and that it won't be fair. I can assure you when all 10 of them go to the light show next year, they will think it is fair for sure! When all of them go out to dinner, or go to school, or fight w/ each other(okay, if your our social worker, Mary, I didn't ever say that!), or do chores, or go camping w/ us,it will all be totally normal. You can be a regular family even if you have special needs chlidren. I am trying to demonstrate that to everyone we meet. We just have to adjust. Make sureeveryone has their "gear" when we go on trips. Whether it is braces, or prosthetics, or meds or cochlear implants. Whatever it is, bring it along and just enjoy the trip. What most consider would be a burden in everyday life, it has just integrated into our everyday life and doesn't pose a problem. Not, getting all to pose nice for a family Christmas picture...a big problem. But, if that is all I have wrong, I do not mind one bit being the mother of 7, later on 10, special needs children. I am very proud and honored at how far they've come & where they are going. So if you new adoptive parents are being told your life will change with and special needs child and it won't be normal anymore. Take that as a compliment and a good thing. I assure you, it is. I will talk more about specific dx's in another post. Right now though, need toget stuff done as Bojan's chorus performance is tonight. Gasp, will he be okay?! He's missing a leg! He'll be fine IF he behaves himself and doesn't make mom crazy. Yep, normal boy. The questions I get sometimes from the general population amazes me & one day I will address it. Some I can understand is simple curiosity. I don'tmind educating at all. Some though, is just plain ignorance.
Oh, btw, if you click on pictures on our blog, it gives you a bigger version of it & better view sometimes. Enjoy your week everyone. Oh, we're doing a big push for magazine sales as some people order magazines for gifts for Christmas. There are such awesome deals on them. Thanks for your contribution Lorraine & do hope you enjoy the magazines. The link is on this blog on the right hand side. Pass it to anyone youmight think may enjoy reading some new magazines. Couldn't do this adoption without all of you. Thanks so much for helping to bring 3 great kids home.